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Follow up to the B/F's Son's Party...

March 19th, 2008 at 04:19 am

The b/f is still traveling for business, so I have to deal with the damage his son did to the house during his party. Tonight, I met with my b/f's son and his ex-wife to assess the damage. This is the FIRST time I have been in a position of authority with my b/f's children and only the second time I've talked with his ex. The first time I talked with the ex was on Sunday when I discovered the damage.

Anyhoo, mom and son came to the house to meet me at 7:30 tonight. We walked through the house and I had the son take notes of the damage and the approximate cost to repair. He admitted to causing most of it, but said his little brother (15 y/o) is responsible for some of it. Gag!

All told, I suggested the damage was approx. $3,500. He was floored.

I also told him that his father and I would be talking at great length with him (and his younger brother) about what a potentially litigious situation he put his father in. I also told him that now that he's 18, the world will look at him differently and he is now an ADULT!!

Interesting night. I wish my b/f was here to handle this stuff!

More to come, folks.

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9 Responses to “Follow up to the B/F's Son's Party...”

  1. Broken Arrow Says:
    March 19th, 2008 at 04:23 am 1205900637
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    Hang in there! That's certainly an unenviable position, but I would definitely remain firm on him paying for the damages (or at least most of it). The cost is steep by the way. Yikes. However, I think it will make him a much more responsible adult from here on out.

    On the bright side, I am glad that he is responsible enough to own up to it (even if he did implicate his younger brother).

  2. reflectionite Says:
    March 19th, 2008 at 04:25 am 1205900720
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    wow! you deserve a medal! boyfriends son AND the ex wife. i take my hat off to you (if i wore a hat, that is)

  3. Thrifty Ray Says:
    March 19th, 2008 at 04:36 am 1205901381
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    this is definately one of those situations that it would have been good to have BF there...hopefully the ex was helpful in driving home all the reasons son would be held responsible. I hope all goes well....please let us know how it turns out.

  4. Ima saver Says:
    March 19th, 2008 at 01:30 pm 1205933401
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    I hope things turn out alright for everyone!

  5. miclason Says:
    March 19th, 2008 at 02:04 pm 1205935451
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    I guess that will be his "Welcome to the Real World" gift: parting with the $$ to pay for the damages!

  6. Joan.of.the.Arch Says:
    March 19th, 2008 at 03:52 pm 1205941921
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    If I were the dad, I think I would have son spend not just his money, but his time calling around and visiting businesses to see what the costs and options are for replacing, cleaning, repairing, re-upholstering, etc. Then I'd have him make the deliveries and pick-ups of furniture that had to be repaired. I'd make him meet the repair and installation people at the house, etc. He has cost his father more than just money. There is the time and aggravation, as well. He might have to miss some half days of school. (Sounds as if he is probably a high school senior.)

  7. luxlivingfrugalis Says:
    March 19th, 2008 at 04:06 pm 1205942787
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    Ouch - I don't envy the situation you've found yourself in, and I'm sure you are now persona-non-grata (sp?) i.e. the big *itch in son's and possibly mother's eyes. You didn't say, how did she behave?

    Did he seem repentant at all???

    Your boyfriend owes you a big night out on the town or something you'd find rewarding for handling this mess!

  8. seven of seven Says:
    March 19th, 2008 at 04:49 pm 1205945392
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    Thank you all for your support. The son was *slightly* repentant, and the mom was totally supportive. She and I made a good team in surrounding the boy with a big dose of reality.

    Joan - great idea on making him do all the leg work. You are absolutely right that this is going to cost more than just money. And, who has the time to spend waiting for the carpet people, the cleaning people, calling around, delivering furniture, etc? My goodness, we have JOBS to go to!

    I'll keep you posted as to what happens over the next few days. He is supposed to call around for a professional cleaning service and get secured, he is also to start cleaning up and clearing out the trash. Did I tell you that most of our towels and sheets are in a wet pile on the floor and are all moldy now? Geez.

    Anyway, Dad comes home on Friday. I CAN'T WAIT FOR DAD!!

    Signed,
    Sad 7

  9. boomeyers Says:
    March 19th, 2008 at 08:42 pm 1205959362
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    Awwww, hand in there! I'm sure BF really appreciates you doing this and I'm glad the Ex was supportive. Good luck! (PS, tip to BF, never leave under 21 children with access to home w/o parental supervision. We were teenagers once too, I remember!)

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