Do you tell friends & family about your blog?

March 27th, 2008 at 02:10 am

I haven't told anyone that I've started this blog. I like my anonimity and if my B/F or friends or family were reading it, I think I'd feel less...I don't know...less able to express myself. My B/F might be horrified that I shared all that stuff about his kids and the party and the mess. You know what I mean?

Am I alone in this? I'm curious, do you share your blog with your friends and family?

I think I'm starting to feel guilty or something and need to know if I'm alone on this one.

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28 Responses to “Do you tell friends & family about your blog?”

littlemama Says:
March 27th, 2008 at 02:18 am 1206584308
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My husband knows about my blog, but I do get a little uncomfortable when he reads it on occasion. I don't know why I feel this way. Nobody else knows...SHHH.
compulsive debtor Says:
March 27th, 2008 at 02:21 am 1206584475
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My husband knows and I once told my sister-in-law, but my sister-in-law is computer illiterate so I don't worry about her reading it at all. My husband rarely reads it but I tend to tell him what I'm writing anyways. I would never tell friends or other family members given the amount of my debt, which they don't know about.
MariRDH Says:
March 27th, 2008 at 02:23 am 1206584627
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I don't think my family or friends IRL (that is internet speak for "in real life") know about my blog and I like it that way. My husband knows, but doesn't necessarily care. *grin* I would definitely feel uncomfortable if my coworkers or employers found out which is why I changed my name here, so hopefully I am safe.
Broken Arrow Says:
March 27th, 2008 at 02:24 am 1206584699
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I don't tell anyone about it. Well, actually, a co-worker knows just because he asked about it. I believe my ex and her friends may as well, but so far, they haven't made a peep. Probably because they believe it's more useful keeping quiet than not.

Either way, it doesn't matter to me. As a policy, I don't tell people, but it's no huge secret either.
Thrifty Ray Says:
March 27th, 2008 at 03:00 am 1206586837
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Ive mentioned it to a couple of people and have talked to the hub, just because he gets interested in why I am online so much...but no one has read my blogs...not sure Id want anyone I know to read them...I am fairly open here and that could cause issues. I consider it letting off steam with friends...I wouldnt feel guilty about it.
baselle Says:
March 27th, 2008 at 03:06 am 1206587194
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DH knows about it and reads it on occasion. DJ friend knows because I linked to the radio station, and mentioned his DJ name. He did a ego search on Google caught the link, so I had to 'fess up. (It wasn't bad, but just so you know there's a reason why you shouldn't even use psuedonyms.) A very few of my IRL friends know, but luckily they aren't the monitoring type - they keep asking me for my blog address! Ha - like I'm going to mention it the second time. One co-worker knows because he confided in me that a blog that our non-profit maintains isn't getting a lot of hits. I showed him mine to show him how its done.
The fewer who know the better. Just keep it between us.
boomeyers Says:
March 27th, 2008 at 03:13 am 1206587620
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My DH knows, but does'nt read. Heavens, he might find something out about our finances. (Sarcasm). But I do tell him about my bloggy friends! My kids know, but I hope they keep it to themselves, especially if they do read it.
Nancy Nygaard Says:
March 27th, 2008 at 03:27 am 1206588458
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Nope, me either.
It's nice to have some private space somewhere.
Nic Says:
March 27th, 2008 at 03:36 am 1206588982
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My partner and my best friend knows but they never read it. Now if it was a site about La$ Vega$, that would be a different story.
scfr Says:
March 27th, 2008 at 03:58 am 1206590314
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My husband knows I have a blog, and I sometimes share stories about other SA members ... He considers it "my diary" and therefore doesn't read it, tho' I wouldn't mind if he did.

My younger sister knows I have a blog about PF ... I haven't told her where it is and she hasn't asked ... If she really wanted to find it she could probably select a few words to Google and find it ... but I doubt that she is that interested.

That's it. No one else knows.
debtfreeme Says:
March 27th, 2008 at 04:09 am 1206590953
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my mom knows i have a pf blog and that i read others daily but she does not know the website. no one else knows and i like the anonymity it provides.
dtjunkie Says:
March 27th, 2008 at 04:31 am 1206592260
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My DH knows, but no one else. A friend shared her blog with me and I thought it was pretty cool and thought I'd want to do the same with mine. But now that I have a blog that I actually regularly post on, (i've "started" others, but never got past the first posts) I have no desire to share this with real life friends and family.

Although, I wouldn't mind meeting some people here in real life. If someone were to throw a SA party, i'd be there with bells on!
aevans1206 Says:
March 27th, 2008 at 11:34 am 1206617675
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My DH knows, but doesn't know what web site it is. I also recently told a friend, but again, I don't think any investigation will take place. I list out all my debt, so I really don't care to have any friends or family know ALL of my business. Just you guys
luxlivingfrugalis Says:
March 27th, 2008 at 12:28 pm 1206620898
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No they don't. And, no, I don't feel guilty.
lost in debt Says:
March 27th, 2008 at 12:40 pm 1206621628
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My husband knows but doesn't read it. I don't share this with friends and family, I wouldn't want the to know the mess I'm in.
merch Says:
March 27th, 2008 at 12:57 pm 1206622656
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No one knows, not even the wife. It's my dirty little secret.

I think the big issue is that I am ashamed of my debt. Also, I would feel a little wierd if people new my numbers. If I ever posted net worth numbers or salary, I wouldn't necessarily want people to know.

So, I plan on keeping it a secret, for now. But who knows.
monkeymama Says:
March 27th, 2008 at 02:16 pm 1206627379
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My husband knows, but no one else (not that I told anyway).

No, I wouldn't be so forthright if I didn't feel anonymous. I wouldn't feel guilty.

I have to agree my husband doesn't read it, but if he did I wouldn't mind. That's different than anyone else. I think I would feel uncomfortable anyone else reading it. But I understand the risk that someone may find it too. So I always try to keep that in mind. Likewise, if I have to rant about a friend or family member, I usually delete it so it isn't there for eternity.
Caoineag Says:
March 27th, 2008 at 02:35 pm 1206628545
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My husband knows and reads (he's a lurker on the entire site, little surprised he hasn't joined yet) and I have a friend who knows I do the blog and forum on pf but she doesn't know where or under what pseudonym so definitely doesn't read.

I really wouldn't care who knows because I believe that if I am not willing to say it to someone, I shouldn't post it. Now that doesn't mean I am always rude enough to say it to someone without them inviting me to, but it does mean that I don't mind if they asked me or if they read it somewhere.
campfrugal Says:
March 27th, 2008 at 02:38 pm 1206628725
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I will tell no-one. This blog is for me to keep me on track, not to let my family and friends know what is going on in my life financially. I mean, afterall, do I get to see their checking/savings accounts and how much they spend on their credit cards. Not.

But, I do love this community of bloggers. So, really, all of you know to an extent about my life finacially and sometimes, other things on my mind; and I must say, I am appreciative of all of your support.

And, maybe in the future, when I have everything paid off, I will tell them. It could be inspiring.
Mr. Meager Says:
March 27th, 2008 at 04:50 pm 1206636622
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Noone knows about my blog. They mock my frugalness enough without knowing I document it.
frugaltexan75 Says:
March 27th, 2008 at 06:30 pm 1206642638
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I have friends and family who know that I have a blog, and I've mentioned certain things I've blogged about and some of the responses I've gotten. But none of the people that I know are either a) internet savvy enough to find my blog or b) have enough time or desire to even try.

If someone were to find my blog . . . I'd be okay with it. I'm fairly open with my family at least, and I don't think I've ever said anything hurtful about anyone who knows me.
Ima saver Says:
March 27th, 2008 at 10:31 pm 1206657096
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I tlke to my dh about it. However, some people on another forum have stalked me on this forum. I do not know how they found out who I was. They seem very jealous on the other forum.
HouseHopeful Says:
March 27th, 2008 at 11:18 pm 1206659895
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I haven't shared with anyone. It wasn't planned, so maybe some day I will
seven of seven Says:
March 28th, 2008 at 03:36 am 1206675369
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Thanks for all your responses. This has been quite interesting. So, I decided to do it. I told my b/f just now. He was very cute about it. He asked me to read what I said about the kids and about him. He seemed pleased and absolutley not annoyed by me exposing King Party and Prince Party. I feel better. And, I will not share this with anyone else but b/f.
ceejay74 Says:
March 28th, 2008 at 04:33 pm 1206721993
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What an interesting topic! I'm fascinated by the different levels of secrecy we all have surrounding our blogs. :-) Initially only my family (that I live with) knew about my blog but I was embarrassed to have them read it for some reason. Then I gave them the link, and now it's my way of keeping them up to date. One of them will say something like, "Hey, that's good news about our budget surplus!" and I'll know they still keep up with it.

Then one of my friends let me in on the deep financial doody he and his partner had gotten into. We had some frank conversations about money so I figured it was OK to let him see my blog. He e-mailed me awhile later saying how much he loved it. I'm hoping he still reads it and will ask me to help him budget someday, because right now he's still in denial phase and spending like there's no tomorrow!

I would share it with any friend who wanted to exchange full disclosure of finances with each other for the purpose of giving each other feedback and/or getting help. Otherwise though, no one needs to know how much debt I'm in. My dad would have a heart attack if he knew!

Because it IS so hard to find people you can be open about your finances with, this site has been SO rewarding, not only so I can bare my soul, but so I can read about a range of experiences and get a sense of other people's approaches and strategies with money.
NJDebbie Says:
March 28th, 2008 at 11:31 pm 1206747096
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My son asked me if I was a blogger the other day. I told him yes and he went to his room. No more questions asked. I like that I have my secret friends at savingadvice.com and don't have to share them with anyone.
managinglife Says:
March 29th, 2008 at 12:42 am 1206751325
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I haven't shared this with my family as of yet. My DH has a laid back approach to pf and think $ will work it self out. He feels that my active approach of wanting to learn how to manage our pf by reading books, watching Dave Ramsay and Suze Orman are bit fanatical and obsessive. He reluctantly noted that my aggressive tendencies to have an emergency fund with 9 months of living expenses, $3K house fund and paying our bills on time resulted with no arguments between us. I feel that he is not ready to know that I have shared some of our financial information to bloggers. Sharing this with people who think like me makes me feel that I am not the only one who wants control of their financial, family peace and personal destinies.
treasureinheaven Says:
March 29th, 2008 at 02:07 am 1206756455
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I have a personal blog that I have kept for over ten years. I never told anyone in my family about it, but once my dad overheard me talking about it to a friend and despite my hesitancy to share details, he dragged the info out of me.

So, my dad started reading my blog. Majorly weird. So, yes, it's a bit freaky when he calls me and comments on something I've written but it's cool.

It's definitely easier to be candid and open when you're not thinking about how those who know you will receive what you are writing.

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